need help

[quench4u]

My x-husband has told me if i don't agree to putting ahold on his child support and letting him claim our he first son for a tax credit, that's he's going to take me to court and get 50-50. he wants 50-50 so he don't have to pay child support anyways. but he is being almost 2 years or more on child support and he's not really don't much effort to help his children he has 2 with me. the clothes and medicine he has are from my house. all he does is give them food and a roof and a floor to sleep on or share a bed. but he don't do anything with schools our pay for any school supplies or field trips or milk money. that's all me. and he don't take them any extra unless it's his every other weekend! I don't want to do this cause i support them full in every way. plus i do drop off and pick. some of our agreements in medation has been broke. but since he been married for a year now him and his wife gain up on me and make me sound awful person and he's trying to be more involved when i feel like his not. he's doing the least! He's not working cuz he has issues with his back but nothing is staying as i know that he can't work something or a sit down job. but he is going to school on online but what he was is a 4 year thing. but his wife does has a child but the same age as our youngest son. and he's always stand up for his wife and her child when her father does something wrong and it has been some of the same issues. i do feel sometimes my sons are being neglected but i have no proof. i just have my kids come home in the same clothes they wear friday when i get them sunday. and i found out our youngest son he has a blanket he like sucks on and it's he comfort blanket. and he's dad spray apple bitter on it so he don't suck on it or put it in his mouth and he won't let him have it. my 4 year old son tells me and the father told he sprays that stuff on the blankt. and my son is made about it! any help is good advice to help me if i go to court or not stress about this. our first born is 6 and he has add,adhd, and autism so i have enough stress! LOL thanks

[JTulo]

I can't even imagine the stress you're feeling. I feel like I'll be going through all this as soon as my baby is born. With everything I have going on with my ex and family I try to keep my stress down as much as possible. I'll watch a good movie, go for a walk, listen to some really good music. I love music that relates to whatever i'm going through. I feel like it helps me vent, ya know, like the music helps get my feelings out and I just feel better... well sometimes it makes things worse. Also, this may sound cheesy, but talking to my bff helps a lot too. She just puts me in a better mood. Although sometimes its difficult cuz she isn't going through the stuff I am. I'm here for you! you can vent to me!