new and need help!

[jamers36vb]

I am 22, mother of two beautiful babies. My son who is 3, and a newborn daughter of 3 1/2 wks. I am married and in the process of getting out. No! this is not post-partum depression. I have been with him for 5 years and sadly the magic and chemistry is just not there anymore. I have made arrangements to move in with my friend while on maternity leave. I work for an honest living making $10.80 an hour, and we all know that in this day and age, its hard to take care of yourself on that kind of money. So I am curious if I could still get state assistance even though I am not legally divorced or even seperated? I can't make it on my own waiting for that to happen. I just have to get my babies and I out NOW! Also, any advice on how you made the transition, with or without kids, would help me sleep at night as well. Btw, I live in Iowa, if that matters at all about the assistance. Thanks! Any advice is HELPFUL!

[SMFH]

jamers36vb welcome to the forum. It is possible to get help even if you are still married. Here is a link from our blog that might help www.singlemomfinancialhelp.com/blog/state-assistance-programs-for-single-mothers/iowa/

[sarah5]

Welcome to single motherhood! I am also from Iowa, a single mom of 5 children an receive no help from my soon to be ex husband. To answer your question, yes u are available for assistance. You need to contact your local department of human services an operation threshold. They will be of great help to you. I make more an hour than you do an I am available for food assistance an my children have title 19. I hope this helps you get started. Good luck.

[angie1976]

The Department of Human Services will also help you in getting child support from your ex. This is called child support enforcement, and the following is a link to their US map. Simply click on your state to find a local office: http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html