Disgust :(~

[frankiesmom]

Hello everyone,

How do you get over the feeling of disgust for the father of your child?!?!?!?

It has been a nice 2 months of silence from him..I thought he finally got the point and would if anything, take me to court like I've told him to...
And now all the text have started all over again...I know this will never end till its finalized in the system. I so wish I had the money to start the paper work and get it done. Now he is threating just to show up at my house with his friends to get his things...its 2 small boxes of his personal things and a hamper with his dirty clothes he left behind oh and he is taking the TV back that he told me we could use cause mine was starting to lose its picture...so I know I don't have to allow him in (he isn't on the lease) but he is still threating even after I told him I'd call the cops and that I would arange to give his stuff to his aunt(which I know he is refusing cause he hasn't talked to his family since January)...This man is just so delusional..saying this is even more proof that I'm unfit and that I'm a drug addict and he will get joint custody of my son every other weekend and a few days a week (which I just don't see happening) and he's living in a nice house with a boat..

I wonder if this is enough to get a restraining order against him..I wonder if he is the one with the drug problem..I know he has a drinking problem and use to smoke pot, but by how he acts I wonder if its something more and thats why he keeps putting it on to me like this...

I just wish this could all end..the drama is so draining and at times I wish I never let him into our lives I should of told him NO your not wanted like he did to me when I told him I was pregnant...

[SallySue15]

Hello frankiesmom,

I think that you should get a restraining order. He has been threatening in his contact with you, be it phone calls or text messages. This will also create a record that could be shown in court to prove his nature toward the mother of his child.

I think that you should also contact the police and have them assist you in getting him his things. This could mean that they escort him through the house for 5 minutes to get his belongings, or they are at your house to observe his actions in picking his things up that you have put outside for him to pick up. Someone at the police department can likely advise you on the best way for you to proceed. The sooner his stuff goes away, the less reason he will have to contact you.

Good luck!

~Sally~