I am a single mom and men don't want me because I have three kids. how do I find the right man for my family.?

[caledonia]

If a man really likes you he will surely accept your kids too. Then, you will also know that he is the right man for you. Only a man who can understand your situation deserves your love. Or better yet, you can still be happy by just being a single mom and just enjoy every moment you have with your kids. And you will surely receive unconditional love from them.

[mom-of-3]

dont go 2 chat rooms thats wat i have done and it has turned out 2 be a big big huge mistake!!!! just pray n leave to god im tryn 2 do the same its so hard but god will lead me the right way i hope n pray anyways!!!!!

[Helpurself]

Hello, I am a single man of 44yrs , hoping to meet the woman of my dreams, but luck has been against me, and it sucks. I am looking, single and ready to mingle, i am not bothered about distance. Looks like we are looking for the same thing. Email me on sinclair_moore002@yahoo.com, will love to see how things goes between usm who knows we might be created for each other

[hopewilson95@yahoo.com]

There will be days when you feel so lonely your heart hurts...but then the kids walk in the room and you look in thier eyes and see your hopes your dreams your life in thier eyes....Yes we need a man to hold us to love us to touch us.....true love will come....slow down have fun with the kids....focus on thier needs and your needs will fall in to play....I have a man in my life....it took me four years but I needed that break....I needed to take time out and love me first....I love him but I am taking my time....and that is what you need to do...take your time...don't rush...it will come and when it do....make sure he knows that your kids is number two in your life and God is number one....

[TNShannon]

I agree with many of the posters here. The right man will accept your kids as a part of you, and will embrace the "package deal" with open arms. A mature, responsible man who will accept the total package is definitely out there...and you should wait until you find him.

Where are you meeting men? Someone mentioned online dating sites, and that is a good idea...it would weed out the men who don't want kids and leave you with the ones that are mature enough to handle it. You could also try single parenting groups in your area.

Instead of being upset about the men who say "let's just be friends," look at it this way: They are actually doing you a favor. You wouldn't want to get involved and then watch it all fall to pieces when he realizes you're a mom. By turning you down, they have given you the chance to find the RIGHT man for you AND your kids.

[salty]

Some lessons are best learnt through pain. Sometimes our visions clear only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes we have to be broken so we can be whole again. If God meant the day to be perfect, He would not have invented tomorrow. Don’t worry if today wasn’t perfect because you still have tomorrows.When the world pushes you to your knees, you’re in the perfect position to pray.Heavy rains remind me of challenges we face in life. Never ask for a lighter rain, instead ask for a better umbrella.It is in loving, not in being loved, the heart is blessed. It is in giving, not in seeking, that we find our quest.A woman is the most beautiful creation of God: You can feel her innocence in the form of a daughter. You can feel her care in the form of a sister. You can feel her warmth in the form of a friend. You can feel her passion in the form of a lover. You can feel her dedication in the form of a wife. You can feel her divinity in the form of a mother. You can see the blessings in the form of a grandmother. Her body is so tender yet so strong. A woman has strengths that amaze men. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens. She holds happiness and love. She smiles when she feels like screaming. She sings when she feels like crying. Cries when she is happy and laugh when she is afraid. Her love is unconditional. If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again. That’s the beauty of being alive; we can always start all over again.Let’s never regret a day in our life. Good day gives us happiness. Bad day gives us experience. Both are essential to life, both are blessings.Patience is not only the ability to wait but also the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.Love is when one person knows all of your deepest, darkest, most dreadful secrets of which no one else in the world knows, and yet in the end, that one person doesn’t think any less of you, even if the rest of the world does.Love is like a lost object. If you search too hard, you won’t find it. But if you just forget about it momentarily, it will show up in the most unexpected way.don't feel bad about your situation. maybe your true love didn't arrive yet. focus all your attention now on your kids. bring them up to be responsible, strong and caring. don't neglect them or blame them for your rejections. give them love, and God will repay you a thousand fold. as for your partner, never get tired of meeting up other guys. be open about your situation. one of these days you'll find the true love that you've been looking for. good luck.

OMG, did you come up with all of this inspiration on your own? I want to print it for myself and copy it for my women friends! Thank you so much for posting such a wonderful response to a question that many of us have. I am not there yet, since my breakup is very new, but I agree that any man who does not accept that a woman has kids isn't going to be the right one anyway. I also think that a nice man who is already a father can be a good way to go.

[1teshia1]

Dear Ocean
I'm single with 6 kids, I don't know what to do either. This will be my second divorce. I'm thinking that I'm done. I tried so hard to be the perfect wife 2 times. The 1st one I left to protect my kids and now this one he choose to leave because he just wan't happy enough. So I'm done. I really don't think 3 times will be the charm. Good luck.