I am a single mom and men don't want me because I have three kids. how do I find the right man for my family.?

[Ocean]

Well... I have talk with guys. I have try to go out with them. But, as soon they hear I have kids they immediately backs up on me. They normally said, your a good person but you have kids. We can be friends only. It is getting hard to get turn down every time. How can I find a really man? Who can see the goodness on me and my kids. Someone to be with me for who I am?

[dairyday]

dont tell em till ur serious about him

[kk]

Join an online dating site. That way if a guy contacts you he already knows about your kids and is still interested.

[Auburn]

it would be easier for u to find a man in the same situation, who is divorced and has a kid or two. therefore combining families wont be so weird .. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Au_axEWJaKOZg.A7do7IddXsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid =20090821043739AAfo2iv

[SSQ8]

Dear friend Ocean,Have faith in God the Heavenly Father and take time to pray with your requests along with your family at home and also at the church.

[Melissa]

a good man will not care whether you have kids,so wait patiently,a good man will show up in the future

[rxaler]

just wait for a while,. maybe theres a guy out there that would really love you. and remember this: a man can be change but not your lovely childrengod bless you!!

[SoccerKic]

find a single father with a couple kids. combine Brady bunch style!

[NicoleM]

I agree seek he first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you...Don't try so hard and place so much emphasis on trying to "bag a man", if he can't accept the fact that you have kids then he wasn't worth your trouble in the first place and it's not like you failed because he can't deal with you having kids. When you find the right man you will know and he will be a good father to your kids. Always remember you're looking for a good man not any man who pays a little attention to you and you are a package deal and any man who can't accept your kids can't love you.

[nicky]

Some lessons are best learnt through pain. Sometimes our visions clear only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes we have to be broken so we can be whole again. If God meant the day to be perfect, He would not have invented tomorrow. Don't worry if today wasn't perfect because you still have tomorrows.When the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray.Heavy rains remind me of challenges we face in life. Never ask for a lighter rain, instead ask for a better umbrella.It is in loving, not in being loved, the heart is blessed. It is in giving, not in seeking, that we find our quest.A woman is the most beautiful creation of God: You can feel her innocence in the form of a daughter. You can feel her care in the form of a sister. You can feel her warmth in the form of a friend. You can feel her passion in the form of a lover. You can feel her dedication in the form of a wife. You can feel her divinity in the form of a mother. You can see the blessings in the form of a grandmother. Her body is so tender yet so strong. A woman has strengths that amaze men. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens. She holds happiness and love. She smiles when she feels like screaming. She sings when she feels like crying. Cries when she is happy and laugh when she is afraid. Her love is unconditional. If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again. That's the beauty of being alive; we can always start all over again.Let's never regret a day in our life. Good day gives us happiness. Bad day gives us experience. Both are essential to life, both are blessings.Patience is not only the ability to wait but also the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.Love is when one person knows all of your deepest, darkest, most dreadful secrets of which no one else in the world knows, and yet in the end, that one person doesn't think any less of you, even if the rest of the world does.Love is like a lost object. If you search too hard, you won't find it. But if you just forget about it momentarily, it will show up in the most unexpected way.don't feel bad about your situation. maybe your true love didn't arrive yet. focus all your attention now on your kids. bring them up to be responsible, strong and caring. don't neglect them or blame them for your rejections. give them love, and God will repay you a thousand fold. as for your partner, never get tired of meeting up other guys. be open about your situation. one of these days you'll find the true love that you've been looking for. good luck.