Why are women always drawn to "bad boys"?

[SallySue15]

I have been down this road a few times. I would really like to meet a man that would be a good step-father to my daughter, but I am always drawn to men that are cheaters, have drug problems, or are just not what my daughter should be exposed to. How can I change my ways, or learn to find good guys?

[TNShannon]

I've always been drawn to bad boys. Long hair, tattoos, unusual jobs that keep them up at all hours, history of addiction, more women in their past than they can even remember...but there is something so vulnerable about them, as though they know they have royally screwed up and they need someone to simply understand them. Maybe that's what attracts me.

But over time, especially as my kids get older, I've come to see bad boys as more of a treat. Settling down with a responsible man is good...but there's nothing to say I can't fantasize about the bad boys that make my heart flutter, right?

I'm not sure you can change your ways...you can't change what attracts you...but you can make the conscious decision to avoid the bad boys and look in other places for the good ones. You can find them in singles groups, church functions, school events, and all sorts of other places where mature, responsible men tend to converge.

And on your way home from your first date, you can lust after that bad boy on a Harley that pulls up next to you at the light. *sigh*